Getting them back on track
I am not obsessed with making New Year Resolutions, but if you are still thinking you ought to do something to get this new year going, or you did make them and have dropped them already though it is only January 2nd, here are 3 things to help ~
However, any day is just as good as January 1st to make resolutions, New year resolutions do seem to so often have a built-in failure button.
It’s almost a joke with many people how they set resolutions every January 1st and by the 10th, if that they are forgotten and abandoned, but what kind of positive message does that send to your brain about your staying power? If you set a goal, telling yourself that it will not last and then you laugh when it doesn’t, then it’s hardly surprising when you do fail
This is the first thing that you have to get right when you make a resolution at any time ~ be sure that you mean it !!, and if you don’t then don’t bother because to do so will not help your mind set when you are determined but think you are bound to fail.
If you really do want to set an achievable goal, you need to define it, and this is the second step. Your goal has to be focused and planned, not just, being happy,’ or ‘having more money’ or ‘being thinner.’ You need to have a plan of how you are going to get this extra money and what is your target weight and what are you going to do to lose the extra, HOW are you going to make yourself happy? Very often goals fail because they are just too vague ….
The third step that must be right when goal setting is positive action. Too often goals are worded in the negative, i.e. what you will stop doing rather than what you will do, I will stop eating chocolate, I will stop smoking, I will stop letting things get to me so much …. I will stop eating chocolate may sound positive but a resolution more likely to be positive and succeed is I will eat more fruit and vegetables.
Your goal plan, no matter what day you make it needs to be action based, but on positive and not negative action. Rather than focusing on what you will stop doing, think about what you will take up, this is a positive mental shift in your mindset.
Following these three steps will help your goals to be more than just vague wishful thinking, and remember that even if the ones you set on January 1st have been abandoned already by today, you can set yourself goals on any day and make them achievable!!!
Valerie Hartland
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