Many of us get used to putting up with an awful lot that understandably makes us anything but happy, but human nature makes us all ideally wish to be happy, we are suited to it. To some degree we achieve at least a measure of happiness by accepting things as they are but when times are bad it’s understandable to want them to be better.
However, people who are always looking for happiness like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow rarely find it. Also, there are many times in life that we just must be prepared for the fact that we are not going to get what we want and believe will make us happy ~ such as that friendship that has ended in misunderstanding or a disagreement and no matter what you do or say or send, the onetime friend will not reply to you ..people have free will to make such a choice in situations like this and if that is what they have decided and their mind is made up, you will not change it . Another example of chasing hard to find happiness is situations such as the results of the recent USA Presidential elections and the European Union election in the UK in the Spring, that resulted in a vote for us in the UK to leave the EU. In both cases, these results have been for many deeply unpopular, but the point of democracy is that we have a vote and the majority vote wins, or certainly what appears in the count to be the majority vote. No matter how suspicious it may look, this is democracy and there are very rarely proven grounds for a recount or repeat of the process.
Here are some ways that we can be happier ~
1.) Mix with positive people,
This can be a hard one because we are not going to suddenly dump our friends and family when things are not going well for them and they are down and depressed, but if you are going to find it hard to hang out with positive people because many of your family and friends are going through tough times too , then try to encourage each other with positive things to do ~ as I write, I am listening to free music on my Amazon Kindle Fire Tablet, from my Amazon Prime subscription ….ok, it’s not exactly free, but if you have a Kindle Fire and are already subscribed to Amazon Prime the free albums, books and movies and TV shows are excellent and people like to talk about music, books, movies and so on rather than depressing subjects. So far this morning I have listened to Gene Pitney, Shirley Bassey and Aretha Franklin …
2.) Live for now!!!
This can be very hard when you are wondering how you are going to pay the mortgage or rent at the end of the month, but try to budget and plan things such as bills in such a way that you are as prepared and able to pay them when they are due as you can be and get all the help that you possibly can by applying for any benefits that you may be entitled to. You may not get them, disability benefits are now very difficult to qualify for, but you will not know if you might have been successful if you do not apply.
When times are bad, it’s natural to want them to be better but try not to look too far ahead and wish for things that right now you do not have, as the most likely result of doing this is to put your blood pressure up.
3.) Try to do things you enjoy ~
There is nothing more depressing than an out of work bore who does not talk about anything other than job hunting. Do things that help you to relax and make you happy and that you can talk about with friends and family. Read books, watch movies, listen to music, as much as finances will permit, keep up hobbies and try to keep active, many parks have free tennis courts or you can go for walks with friends and take a picnic to share.
4.) Be thankful for the good things that you do have in your life ~
Valerie Hedges
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